I spend a lot of my time encouraging an engagement with other faiths that aims to seek the best in the other and as a bottom line, disagree well. This last week then has been a sobering reminder of the need for us to follow similar principles as we relate to our own brothers and sisters. A week of washing our dirty linen in public or sweeping dirt under the carpet, depending on how you look at it. The very human tendency to draw our lines in the sand and push people away is all too evident in a church that should be characterised by risky, vulnerable love. Now I'm not suggesting that this means the church should "let everything go", have no boundaries or disciplines. Rather, in expressing our boundaries, and truths that we may hold dear (tick your choice from the following: women should be free to become bishops, women should not be bishops, practising homosexuals should not be ordained, faithful homosexual relationships need to be recognised by the church) we learn to hear the voice of the other and disagree well.
The thing is, there are bigger Truths that ought to bind us as a family (that's an alternative helpful designation for the church!) and I dare to propose that humility, forgiveness and reconciliation are integral to what binds us a believing fellowship. Yup, it's all there in the breaking of bread/eucharist/communion (tick your choice from the preceding): men, women, old, young, whatever culture, colour, or sexual orientation are restored through the death and resurrection of Christ. Oh, and the "small business" of the centrality of the cross is that we are not just restored to God, but to each other (and creation!).
How can we learn to bless those we struggle to agree with and hear God speak to us in those we might oppose? I remember that a few years ago, Tony Campolo and his wife famously sat on a platform and gave a vivid illustration of this when Mr Campolo talked of his own conservative line on homosexuality. He then passed the mic over to his wife who admitted that she disagreed with Tony and welcomed more progressive interpretations of sexuality in scripture. They still shared the same bed! Sacre bleu!
Whether we like it or not, we are bound to each other in often uncomfortable ways: that's part of the beauty of the church and not an issue that just relates to the current politics of the Church of England. It can be depressing to witness the exclusivism, the labelling and the defensiveness. Going back to the issue of interfaith relations, I suspect that one of the key processes to get beyond the impasse of Christian disunity is a more faithful engagement with the world in mission. As we step out and forward, embodying Christ's love in a broken world, we may well find alongside us brothers and sisters, also broken and sometimes of very a different persuasion. In the place of being poured out for the world, in the name of Jesus, our differences are likely to look exceedingly petty.

